See West’s Notes at: West, D. Horace Odes I Carpe Diem: Text, Translation and Commentary, Oxford: Clarendon Press, (1995), pp. 158-161
In a way what I’m doing here is what Horace does in many of his odes which is to cast the narrator as a kind of professor of love – in this case the narrator is giving advice to a fellow-poet who has become obsessed and in love with a female poet who has two-timed him for a man who though not good looking, is powerful and strong. My version follows the same pattern as Horace, A loves B who loves C who the narrator predicts will eventually reject her. So my version also exposes the absurdity of love, accepting that so far as love is concerned, once Venus gets her claws into us, reason flies out of the window.
The idea of being unequal yet tied together is suggested in my opening stanza where I refer to Ann as a ‘fiery redhead’ and yet we have Phil writing poetry to her in terms of being ‘dear sweet Ann’. This idea of unequalness also comes in relation to Ricky and Bella where he ‘worshipped Bella and hung on her every word, only to find that she was unfaithful to him both in bed and in her poetry and finally, the unequalness between the narrator and a previous partner is highlighted in the last stanza where the narrator chose someone she saw as strong and whom she thought would give her space as an individual and as a writer, only to find out that she got neither and that her tongue was tied, (the worst thing possible since the narrator too is a poet!) In other words, as in Horace the tactic used to give advice is to point out that the narrator too has made mistakes in the past and got tied up with the wrong partner.